How long should you wait before texting back.

Texting back takes patience. Desperate people with nothing to do in their lives text back right away, because they have nothing better to do. But if you have your life together, then you don’t have time to text back the second someone texts you. Why? Because you’re at work, or at the gym or simply busy taking care of business. If you have nothing better than to look at your phone every ten seconds to reply to texts, then you have big problems you need to resolve.

Having explained this, the right time to text back depends on the urgency of your goal. If a girl texts you “Hi” – that’s not urgent. She’s probably bored and just texted you for attention.

Now if you get a text from a girl that reads “Come over. I want to see you.” Now we’re talking urgent.

Learn the differences: Texts that require a call to action are texts that you can consider responding sooner than later. Everything else does not require your immediate attention. Don’t get caught responding to meaningless texts from people with nothing better to do than to send you a message.

It’s important that you don’t get impatient and desperate. Because then you’ll end up texting someone too soon. Wait it out. If you not responding to a text right away makes that person lose interest in you, then they weren’t interested in the first place. Be patient and make your texts be worth something.

Speaking of timelines, you can respond to a non-urgent text anywhere after 2 hours to 24 hours from receiving it. If you can wait even longer, like a day or two, then do it, and see good results.

An urgent text from a girl will depend on how bad you want the girl, but a good timeline is 15 minutes to two hours. The longer you make her wait, the happier she’ll be when she receives your reply. She will probably text you back right away. Then you start the waiting period once again.

Also, don’t ask questions on text. You’re opening yourself for not receiving a response. Treat each text like if it’s the last text that you’ll be sending that person.

The main point is to wait and really think of your reply. Take your time. The more you rush, the more desperate you’ll seem. Nothing sooner than 15 minutes. And if you have the discipline, and want really good results, then don’t respond at all, and watch how you might get another text or a possible phone call. Be patient and find a hobby so you’re not worried waiting for texts.



  1. Sarah

    LOL. This is the worst advice for texting I’ve ever heard; if a guy takes more than a couple of hours to text back I assume he’s just not into me; and if he ignores my text I’m not spending my time waiting around for him.

  2. A Watson

    Actually, the advice is pretty reasonable. Making the girl wait is perhaps the best thing any guy can do. The message he’s sending – “You are just another thing on my schedule. You are not that important. But, I am still texting you – you still have a chance to prove yourself to be actually worth my time and effort.”

  3. Keu Reyes

    I’m glad you see it that way. This suggestion to wait before texting back is not meant to demean anyone. Its saying that a person should occupy their time with more productive thing rather than desperately texting back 5 seconds after getting a text. Desperation is hardly a good impression on anyone.

  4. Steve

    I think you’re over thinking this. If you plan on waiting a certain amount of time before testing back she can often tell that you’re doing it in purpose, and it’s not cool putting that much thought into things. It takes about 20 secs to write a text…

  5. Keu Reyes

    @Steve I have to disagree. She has no idea whether you’re doing it on purpose or not. That’s the beauty of uncertainty. Justice when you don’t get a reply from someone, you usually are not sure of why. They might be doing it on purpose, but you can’t prove a thing. If you want to keep the other person interested, then let them wait.

  6. Caddie

    Don’t agree at all! If I’m really into someone and he texts me back really quickly, it makes me smile and feel all excited… if he waits more than a few hours then I just assume he’s playing games ie. not worth it
    Because seriously, who goes more than a few hours without checking their phone in this day and age?

  7. Anonymous

    worst advice ever. If I don’t receive a text right away, I assume they are 100% not interested

  8. Keu Reyes

    Even if he waits a few hours, you will still feel happy he replied. In fact, even more happier than if he text back right away. It’s the way we humans are.

  9. Jade

    As a girl if a guy is waiting several hours each time I text to text me back I assume he’s playing games because these days almost no one under the age of 35 isn’t checking there phones as often as possible. So either I’m thinking oh he’s trying to tell me he’s not interested in me or he’s trying to act like he’s soooo busy he can’t send a text back. In Either case I lose interest… Quickly.

  10. HMH

    I´m not a game player myself, I just don´t see the point. To me, being honest and upfront about your feelings, makes a person seem mature=manly.
    But Ive also noticed that this dating-game is something many people are playing. I live in New York, I recently moved here, well a year ago, from Finland. I have never seen anything like this. People really play games. Maybe it´s the city that drives its citizens crazy or maybe this place just somehow gathers a diversity of …individuals. Most of them super handsome, beautiful, talented, the list goes on… Competition is harsh, and you find yourself all the time upgrading, a better job, a better apartment, a date..
    Anyways, what I wanna say is that, maybe this dating game is, well at least here, acceptable. This way you can somehow divide the total lunatics from the almost normal people. You have more time to test what kind of person the man/woman is who you are dating. How s/he reacts to the way you are communicating etc. Its only a good thing, why rush to anything? If you are looking for a long term relationship, then what does it matter if someone takes a little longer time to respond? The world doesn´t collapse if the person you´ve dated for 2 weeks doesn´t respond to you right away. And seriously, if it does, then, well, I wouldn´t wanna date you.
    Playing is fun, just don´t take it too seriously or let it go on for too long.
    Good job, Keu!


  11. Emily

    This is stupid. You should wait a few minutes before texting back not a few days. If you don’t text back in a few hours it seems like you don’t have interest and are ignoring them. Texting them throughout the day while you’re doing something important shows them you care.

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